Conversation Normal
Who is right
– I think I disagree with you.
– Perhaps.
– You're not defending it?
– Not everything has to end in a debate.
Maturity begins where a person doesn't need to win every conversation.
conversation ego distance
Collections
Conversations without ego
Conversations where nobody tries to win.
Ego Abnormal but common
Expert on everything
– I'm into investing, psychology, and relationships.
– That's a broad range.
– Years of experience.
– Can you sometimes say 'I don't know'?
Lack of humility is often mistaken for charisma.
ego conversation self-presentation
Ego Abnormal but common
Dinner and contempt
– I have no patience for people who are stuck in place.
– And who decides where the right place is?
– It's obvious.
– Usually the tone makes it obvious.
Contempt often disguises itself as 'high standards'.
ego status relationships
Conversation Normal
Good question
– How are you?
– You mean really or just being polite?
– Really.
– Then sit down.
A real conversation begins where automatism ends.
conversation relationships closeness
Money Contrast
Salary talk
– How much do you make now?
– Enough to tell my accountant.
– Mysterious.
– Just not eager to make money into character.
Not every privacy is a pose. Sometimes it's just hygiene.
money boundaries work
Conversation Normal
Silence in conversation
– You've gone quiet.
– I'm thinking.
– That's rare.
– Silence is also part of a conversation.
Not everything needs to be filled with words.
conversation silence distance