Boundaries Normal
Weekend call
– Can you talk for an hour now?
– No, I'm resting.
– Okay, I'll call tomorrow.
– Thanks.
Boundaries are not an attack. They are a form of respect for your own time.
boundaries relationships communication
Collections
Boundaries without explanation
Without guilt.
Money Contrast
Salary talk
– How much do you make now?
– Enough to tell my accountant.
– Mysterious.
– Just not eager to make money into character.
Not every privacy is a pose. Sometimes it's just hygiene.
money boundaries work
Relationships Normal
Help
– Do you need help?
– A bit.
– Then say specifically.
– Come tomorrow.
– I'll be there.
Simple help doesn't need staging.
relationships help closeness
Self-distance Normal
Changing mind
– Yesterday you said something different.
– Yes.
– So what now?
– I changed my mind.
– That's rare.
– Rather normal, just uncomfortable.
Consistency shouldn't be more important than truth.
distance maturity character